Jali’s House

Entries from November 2007

Karaoke Stuff

November 27, 2007 · 18 Comments

This is a story from about a year ago.

I went out to meet a friend for drinks at Pepper’s, a local bar. I nodded to a couple of people I’d seen before and settled myself in my corner spot at the bar. A jazzy CD was playing and I was comfortable in the place I consider my “Cheers.” My friend arrived and we started a pretty good conversation.
I glanced away from my companion for a moment and noticed that M.L. the serious DJ and Karaoke master of the joint had arrived and was actively recruiting singers for the evening. $75.00 was to be given away in a drawing of all participants to the lucky 3 that were chosen. Being highly skilled at math I realized the potential prize total immediately and decided that $25.00 was positively worth an adventure.
I took my time checking first the artists, then song titles available and decided to do a song as a joke. I filled out my slip and M.L. had a good long laugh when he read my song choice, “Ode to Billy Joe”. Maybe the song plays well in certain venues – a primarily African American club isn’t usually one of them.

I waited for my name to be called entertained by those ahead of me. The funniest singers to me are the ones who sing as if they’re auditioning for something- the ones who really believe they can sing.

Finally M.L. called my name and I walked to the front of the room, smiled at the crowd and started singing. Had to stop and start again since I was singing (well to be kind you might call it that) over the intro. Way to go Jali.

I won’t print all the lyrics, but I’ve gotta share just a portion.

“It was the third of June, another sleepy dusty Delta day. I was out chopping cotton and my brother was bailing hay.”

As I sang this first line for the second time, I glanced up to see a thirty-something professional give me the gas face. Was the “chopping cotton” line a little to hard to take? “Damn,” I thought, don’t misinterpret and judge me that way.

I looked around the room to gauge my reception – one or two people were singing along with me but the “Buppies” in their 30’s seemed to take offense. How dare I sing a country song that mentions cotton?

My history with this song was of a 45 RPM record being played repeatedly on a Saturday morning. My father, a fan of Jazz, the blues and Ole’ Blue Eyes was the house DJ. He heard this song on the radio while changing stations and had to have it. Once he had it, he had to play it.

I was a kid and didn’t realize how sad the song is. The music is moving – the lyrics and rhymes are simple but enhance the mood of the song. Bobbie Gentry’s ( the singer) voice was strong, clear and compelling. The song has stayed with me for 40 years and I’m glad to have sung it one more time.

I had the opportunity to speak to the thirty-something professional, my gas face giver and I asked if the lyrics of my song offended her.

“No. You just can’t sing for shit!”

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Thanks Stuff

November 21, 2007 · 20 Comments

I’m going to get a little sappy today.

I don’t take enough time to appreciate all that I have to be thankful for.  It shouldn’t take a turkey and stuffing to remind me of the wonderful life I have, but it seems that sometimes it unfortunately does.

My family brings me such joy that it’s really difficult to convey my feelings. It always amazes me that my four children, Brooke, Dalerie, Charles and Jack have grown into people I would choose to be my friends. I cried last night when it hit me that I’ve had the distinct honor of watching them grow into productive and successful individuals and that they all made their best efforts to make their mother happy.

beautiful_brooke.jpgBrooke

Brooke will be joining me in Dallas for my company holiday party next month. She leads a busy life – she’s a manager at a bank in Delaware and is the mother of the charming Hassan my youngest grandchild. She opened her home (and her wallet I’m sure) to her little brother Charlie when he decided to go to college there. I understand the sacrifice she’s making to spend 3 days with me and my heart is just bursting with happiness that she’s willing to make the effort as well as bear the cost and hassle of flying during the holidays.brooklyn-and-haas.jpgBrooke and Hassan

m_627d171679cb0fb1e3082f32514ef726.jpgDalerie

Dalerie lives in Florida with her husband, Tawan and my grandsons Kavon and Jared. We talked for over an hour last night and she’s balancing parenthood with full time work, as well as pushing forward in her fledging songwriting career. Despite her heavy schedule, she’s coming to Atlanta soon, just to see her mommy, and I’m touched.dallas.jpgDalerie

m_36795754029819975a62c648733a09b3.jpgKavon and Jared

charlie1.gifCharlie

Charles goes to school in Delaware (Wilmington College) and works full time – his manager sent him to Virginia a few weeks ago for a supervisory training program and he’s on track for a promotion already. The kid is just 19 and I’m so proud that he’s handling his life so well.  I can’t wait to see him for Christmas.

jack_c.jpgJack

Jack is just 16 and  he’s doing great in school and he takes the time to check up on his old “ma” on a regular basis.  He’ll come over and sit down and just hang out with me – he can’t imagine how good it feels. He’s an artist and has written and illustrated 2 full length comics. I’m not happy with the language his characters use at times, but his talent amazes me.

jack.jpgJack

All of my children are happy and healthy. 

See – look at all the great stuff I have happening in my life – but wait, there’s more…

I have real friends who show me they love me and it’s wonderful to know. Some of you readers are among those I count as my real friends. I’m thankful for all of you.

I’ve made peace with my ex-husband, Charles and we’re finally friendly.

I just had my review at work and my boss gave me a much bigger raise than I expected. My coworkers treated me like royalty yesterday to celebrate the happiest day of the year – and even some of the couriers and building people took time to stop up and wish me well.  I’m blessed. (or however I should say it since I’m a pagan)

My girlfriend, Brenda, came over to spend the evening with me – taking about boys, and laughing and crying about our lives – she capped off a perfect day. Another girlfriend, Seria, called to tell me that she’s treating me to dinner and drinks tonight at her open mic poetry affair. She already arranged my transportation so I have yet more birthday fun to look forward to.

Adrian and I are still friends and I’m grateful for that.

I wish everyone a safe an happy holiday, and I’m looking forward to stories from you guys on Friday.

<kiss-kiss, hug-hug>

jali

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Birthday Stuff

November 20, 2007 · 6 Comments

b-day1.jpgb-day-2.jpgMy office is the best! The very best!

Faye brought in Dunkin Donuts as my b-day cake this morning AND gave me some chocolates and a funny card. Eric gave me a new book – he knows I love SciFi and it’s just perfect.
I took a morning break and came back to find my desk decorated with balloons and confetti (fairy dust is what I call it) AND a pink and silver princess crown. The crown spells out “Princess” so there’s no mistake. My girl Mindy came out and did a birthday dance and everyone passing by stopped to say the magical words, “happy birthday.”

Dawn called me at about 11 inviting me to lunch at  http://www.savvydiner.com/details.php?r=40 - It was my first time there and I really enjoyed it. I had lobster tail tempura for lunch – the best y’all – the best.  Dawn’s husband Preston and another architect, John also joined us and I had a ball.

Our director, Mark gave me a bottle of red wine (wine is good for my health, see) and a funny card.

I’m excited since we generally celebrate the month’s birthdays all together with one cake at the end of the month. I feel special to have been singled out with presents and all kinds of surprises.

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It’s The Happiest Day of The Year!

November 20, 2007 · 6 Comments

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Ok – so I look like FlavaFlav in this photo – it doesn’t matter ’cause I’m having a ball. My coworkers are all calling me “princess” and I’ve gotten 2 gifts already. I’ve been getting calls so I’m happy.

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Mo’ Better Retread Stuff…

November 12, 2007 · 11 Comments

…or these are a few of my favorite things.

I did this about a year ago, and being out of new and original subject matter, I’ve decided to repost some of my old shit. Well, I’m not re-posting word for word – some of my responses may have changed.

While we generally root for the hero of a movie or television show, the villain sometimes captures our interest and makes or breaks a storyline. I can’t imagine any of the following without these outstanding characters.

I’m breaking this up into catagories and I’ll start with my favorite movie villains:

Alonzo Harris – Training Day

Lumburg – Office Space

Brick Top – Snatch

Mister – The Color Purple

Begbie – Trainspotting

Hans Gruber – Die Hard

Randolph and Mortimer - Trading Places

Castor Troy – Face Off

Albert Ganz- 48 Hours

I’ll continue with my favorite villians of the small screen:

Dr. Zachary Smith – Lost in Space

Stringer Bell – The Wire

Livia Soprano – The Sopranos

Diana – V (the miniseries from the 1980s)

Lois’ Mother – Malcolm in The Middle

My next catagory is animated villains:

Mr. Sinister – X-Men, The Animated Series

Gargamel – The Smurfs

Lord Farquad – Shrek

Mum-ra – Thundercats

Skeletor – He-Man

Of course in writing about villains, we can’t forget books:

The Harkonnens – Dune

The Mule – The Foundation Series

Arienrhod – The Snow Queen

Glawen Clattuc/Smonny Clattuc – Araminta Station

I know, I know. I didn’t name your favorite villain. Tell me about it.

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Completing the Quest Stuff

November 10, 2007 · 8 Comments

It’s only 11am on Saturday morning and I have two whole days with no set plans ahead of me. Weekends like this are the best – I’m not obligated to anyone to appear at a certain time. I’m not committed to perform a particular task by a deadline. I can do whatever I feel like doing.

I’ve been surfing all morning, drawing inspiration from some, laughing with others and I’ve decided to set a goal for the weekend and follow it through. 

My goal is to complete something I started a few years ago. I devoted quite a bit of time to this endeavor, then gave it up without a backwards glance. This project was important to me then, and as I write about it now, I’m recovering some of those old feelings.

I remember searching the internet for answers. I frequented various message boards to garner information about my project. I wanted to be one of the best and I wanted to proudly tell my family and friends that I’d found ways to overcome  the various obstacles set in my path to completion.

I’m getting excited now so it’s time for me to open that box and unpack the equipment.

Wait… (going to unpack the box)

All the parts are there! Everything is just as I remembered. all my research is in order – my notes are here to guide me.

Today is the day! I’m going to start at the beginning and do it right this time. I’ll prove to myself that I’m not a quitter – I can finish this.

I’ve pulled out my Nintendo 64 and I’m going to finally finish playing Zelda, The Ocarina of Time.  See you guys next week.

 http://www.zelda.com/universe/game/ocarinatime/

EDIT:

I have thrown the fucking controller at the screen. I forgot which of those old dungeons I HATED the first time around. Princess Luto is an IDIOT! I hate the Ice Cavern! I can’t remember how to find the running man. Sheesh! 

Did not finish this weekend.

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Random Stuff (re-mix)

November 8, 2007 · 15 Comments

I need your help. I need to lose weight and my new plan is internet inspired – tell me something funny so I can Laugh My Ass Off. I don’t mind Rolling On The Floor while I do it since that’ll be an extra workout.  Others on the ‘net must have really flat butts since they use this term so frequently. If you post at http://captainsmack.blogspot.com/  please read the caution on the right side of the page. He outlawed lol a while back.

My inspiration to lose weight about 15 years ago was my son. The kid was about 4 at the time and I was looking in the mirror and I commented that I looked fat. Charlie tried to make me feel better and said, “You’re not fat Mommy – You’re just plump”.  

Plump?

Plump???

I started a diet that same day.

One of my new hobbies brings me so much joy. I didn’t need to buy any equipment – all I needed was right here. No one else needs to get involved, and I’m a natural. What’s my new hobby? Napping. It’s something I’m damn good at and I’m determined to keep it up.

Living alone can be fun. I haven’t had to play the “find the remote” game or the “where’s the toilet paper” game since I got this place.  I can stay stinky all day and shower at 3 in the afternoon if I wish. I can eat ramen noodles all weekend out of pure laziness.  I can read all weekend without interruption and I can watch whatever I want on TV. My one major drawback – the regular cramping of my right hand. ( that was the punchline folks – well it was funny to me!)

Why is it when I’m home alone I wait until the very last second to use the bathroom? I always treat myself as though peeing is the big reward for finishing something. “I’ll go pee after I finish folding these clothes” or “I’ll pee after I vacuum the bedroom.” I alway end up trying to race while holding my legs together (like a demented Charlie Chaplin walk) and I’ll admit it here, I lose the race occasionally. You would think that I’d learn and go when my body gives the signal – but NOOOO – not me.  I always have to have something to read in the bathroom, so as I’m racing, I’m also trying to grab some reading material. It’s comedy every day at jalis house.

IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT:

The happiest day of the year my birthday is on November 20th. I love the happiest day of the year my birthday more than any other holiday and I expect the world to celebrate with me. I had ambitious plans to throw a big bash this year for the happiest day of the year my birthday but it ain’t happening, so the world is going to have to come up with some surprises. 

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Blogroll Stuff or “Share the Love”

November 4, 2007 · 15 Comments

In visiting some of you guys, I’ve noticed that some of the people I absolutely love on my blogroll are missing from yours. I’ve noticed names I don’t know on some of your pages and I want us to share the joy.  

I don’t have time to visit all the names on everyone’s ‘rolls so I came up with a new plan. (stop taunting me about the October film festival – it’s coming…eventually, just listen to the new plan)

Please post a comment to show you want to participate and I’ll send you a link to a great post by someone who’s not on your roll. Hopefully you’ll also post a link for someone who’s missing on my blogroll and I’ll get the chance to visit new people.  I found some of you this way, but my greed leaves me wanting more. Please find a great post to link, not just the front page link.

The happiest day of the year November 20th will be here soon!!!!! Be prepared! This is just the first warning.

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Living Without Guy Stuff or Count Your Blessings Stuff

November 3, 2007 · 11 Comments

A couple of weeks ago Guy, my 1987 Mazda, decided he needed a rest. I was on my way to take my trash to the dumpster and he wouldn’t go. He’s been resting comfortably in front of my building since then.

I pass him in the morning on my way to the van pool. I pass him when I return from work every day. I pass him as I lug my garbage to the dumpster and I pass him again on the way to the mail center.

I think Guy has decided that I’m getting too fat, and this is his way of moving me to workout a bit.

When I was driving I would see people waiting in the hot sun for busses or walking in the street. (this area only has sidewalks in random places.) I didn’t think that I would become one of the street walkers this soon.

I can make it without a car, but I’ve become spoiled, and my body isn’t happy with all this new excersize. Shopping for groceries or going to the bank means a lot of extra planning. I need to have change for the bus available. I need to be prepared for a change in weather and I need to have comfortable shoes.

People have been giving me “great” advice: “Why don’t you just buy another car” or “why don’t you just get Guy fixed.” I suppose that people imagine that I’ve never considered either of these options. They must believe I’m the “other sister” (smiling cause that’s another movie I love.)

Apparantly people seem to think that I’m living with an unlimited budget and that the seven weeks I was out of work this summer made no difference to my financial state.

I’m still recovering from the lack of income and a great outpouring of expense during that period. My deductable was $1000.00 and my copayment for each medication is $15.00. I had a little money put away, but it didn’t last long.

My 401k is off limits (I’m getting up there in age and I need to have a cushion) and I can’t afford to repay a loan.

I’m not complaining – there are many others in the world who would feel that I’m living in luxury  – and I am. I have a pretty cool apartment and a job I love. My children are all healthy and happy and doing well. I have great friends who mean the world to me. I have the INTERNET AT HOME!

I guess the point of all this is to remind myself that I need to spend time appreciating what I have. I didn’t appreciate my car and now that he’s resting I think of all the things made easier by being able to drive.

So Guy, (he can feel the vibes) I love you honey and I’ll get you back up as soon as I can.

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