Jali’s House

Entries from January 2008

Tipping Stuff

January 31, 2008 · 23 Comments

I’m taking a break from my break today. I was surfing new blogs and I ran into an issue that I didn’t realize existed to the extent I read about today. Here’s a link so that you can check for yourself  http://www.iserveidiots.com/2007/01/04/the-numbers-dont-lie-people/#comment-980.

 I was reading a variety of “server” blogs and read articles and reader comments about AfricanAmericans and tipping. Almost all of the servers who took the time to write noted that Black people were generally rude to servers and usually didn’t tip.  As I read, I got a bit heated since I’m a great tipper, but in thinking back on dinners with friends I recall a few who would either try to find a reason not to tip, or who would leave the table before the tip was due.

I had a good girlfriend in New York who is well educated and an excellent friend. I refuse to go out to eat with her since she NEVER tips the waitstaff, and I could no longer afford to make up her tips all the time. We would go to restaurants where the average entree ran about $18 to $30 bucks, so with appetizer and drinks, dinner usually ran over $100 for the two of us. The tip had to be at least $20 and depending on the level of service I’d want to go higher, but since I was paying the tip alone going out to eat with “J” was breaking my bank.

I also remember treating a guy who was like a brother to me to dinner and leaving a good tip on the table. I busted this guy actually going back to take the tip. He defended himself by saying the waiter didn’t earn the tip, and that he was going to return it to me. I was horrified and I made sure to put the cash into the waiters hand. I never went out to eat with him again.

I mention these two stories and wonder how many other good people out there are like this when it comes to tipping.

Isn’t 20% the standard tip with a higher percentage left for a greater degree of service? If I go to lunch alone (I love to do this) and the meal is $10 – 15, I never tip less than $5. I’ve had servers that actually seemed shocked to get a decent tip from me and I wonder if this is based on the single Black woman reputation as a poor tipper.

My daughter in Florida is a server and she hates to serve some Black people since generally she gets stiffed. I don’t understand this at all. Some of the servers commented that perhaps it’s a cultural thing – since I’m an AA chick, I don’t believe that since my parents both tipped well.

I’d like to hear true stories from you guys please as well as reasons for how you approach tipping. I can’t remember ever not tipping a server and I can’t imagine why someone would go out of there way to skip a tip.

I know that this isn’t a big deal in the general scheme of things, but I don’t like knowing that many of “my people” don’t treat servers well and I’d like this to change.

Categories: Uncategorized

Break Stuff

January 27, 2008 · 8 Comments

I’m taking a break from my page. I just don’t feel it right now and I don’t want to post junk just to post.

I’ll be visiting you guys regularly.

Oh! Sex is great!! (grinnin’)

Categories: Uncategorized

Citizenship Stuff

January 14, 2008 · 21 Comments

Can you pass this standard US citizenship exam? Answers posted in a couple of days.

1. What is the supreme law of the land?

A:

2. What does the ___________ do? (see #1)

A:

3. The idea of self-government is in the first three words of the Constitution. What are these words?

A:

4. What is an amendment?

A:

5. What do we call the first ten amendments to the Constitution?

A:

6. What is one right or freedom from the First Amendment?*

A

7. How many amendments does the Constitution have?

A:

8. What did the Declaration of Independence do?

A:

9. What are two rights in the Declaration of Independence?

A:

10. What is freedom of religion?

A:

11. What is the economic system in the United States?*

A:

12. What is the “rule of law”?

A:

B. System of Government

13. Name one branch or part of the government.*

A:

14. What stops one branch of government from becoming too powerful?

A:

15. Who is in charge of the executive branch?

A: the

16. Who makes federal laws?

A:

17. What are the two parts of the U.S. Congress?*

A:

18. How many U.S. Senators are there?

A:

19. We elect a U.S. Senator for how many years?

A:

20. Who is one of your state’s U.S. Senators?*

A:

21. The House of Representatives has how many voting members?

A:

22. We elect a U.S. Representative for how many years?

A:

23. Name your U.S. Representative.

A:

24. Who does a U.S. Senator represent?

A:

25. Why do some states have more Representatives than other states?

A:

26. We elect a President for how many years?

A:

27. In what month do we vote for President?*

A:

28. What is the name of the President of the United States now?*

A:

29. What is the name of the Vice President of the United States now?

A:

30. If the President can no longer serve, who becomes President?

A:

31. If both the President and the Vice President can no longer serve, who becomes President?

A:

32. Who is the Commander in Chief of the military?

A:

33. Who signs bills to become laws?

A:

34. Who vetoes bills?

A:

35. What does the President’s Cabinet do?

A:

36. What are two Cabinet-level positions?

A:

37. does the judicial branch do?

A:

38. What is the highest court in the United States?

A:

39. How many justices are on the Supreme Court?

A:

40. Who is the Chief Justice of the United States?

A:

41. Under our Constitution, some powers belong to the federal government. What is one power of the federal government?

A

42. Under our Constitution, some powers belong to the states. What is one power of the states?

A:

43. Who is the Governor of your state?

A:

44. What is the capital of your state?*

A:

45. What are the two major political parties in the United States?*

A:

46. What is the political party of the President now?

A:

47. What is the name of the Speaker of the House of Representatives now?

A:

C: Rights and Responsibilities

48. There are four amendments to the Constitution about who can vote. Describe one of them.

A:

49. What is one responsibility that is only for United States citizens?*

A:

50. What are two rights only for United States citizens?

A:

51. What are two rights of everyone living in the United States?

52. What do we show loyalty to when we say the Pledge of Allegiance?

A:

53. What is one promise you make when you become a United States citizen?

A:

54. How old do citizens have to be to vote for President?*

A:

55. What are two ways that Americans can participate in their democracy?

A:

56. When is the last day you can send in federal income tax forms?*

A:

57. When must all men register for the Selective Service?

A:

AMERICAN HISTORY

A: Colonial Period and Independence

58. What is one reason colonists came to America?

A:

59. Who lived in America before the Europeans arrived?

A:

60. What group of people was taken to America and sold as slaves?

A: 

61. Why did the colonists fight the British?

A:

62. Who wrote the Declaration of Independence?

A:

63. When was the Declaration of Independence adopted?

A:

64. There were 13 original states. Name three.

A:

65. What happened at the Constitutional Convention?

A: .

66. When was the Constitution written?

A:

67. The Federalist Papers supported the passage of the U.S. Constitution. Name one of the writers.

A:

68. What is one thing Benjamin Franklin is famous for?

A:

69. Who is the “Father of Our Country”?

A:

70. Who was the first President?*

A:

B: 1800s

71. What territory did the United States buy from France in 1803?

A:

72. Name one war fought by the United States in the 1800s.

A:

73. Name the U.S. war between the North and the South.

A:

74. Name one problem that led to the Civil War.

A:

75. What was one important thing that Abraham Lincoln did?*

A:

76. What did the Emancipation Proclamation do?

A:

77. What did Susan B. Anthony do?

A:

C: Recent American History and Other Important Historical Information

78. Name one war fought by the United States in the 1900s.*

A:

79. Who was President during World War I?

A:

80. Who was President during the Great Depression and World War II?

A:

81. Who did the United States fight in World War II?

A:

82. Before he was President, Eisenhower was a general. What war was he in?

A:

83. During the Cold War, what was the main concern of the United States?

A:

84. What movement tried to end racial discrimination?

A:

85. What did Martin Luther King, Jr. do?*

A:

86. What major event happened on September 11, 2001 in the United States?

A:

87. Name one American Indian tribe in the United States.

A: INTEGRATED CIVICS

A: Geography

88. Name one of the two longest rivers in the United States.

A:

89. What ocean is on the West Coast of the United States?

A:

90. What ocean is on the East Coast of the United States?

A:

91. Name one U.S. territory.

A:

92. Name one state that borders Canada.

A:

93. Name one state that borders Mexico.

A:

94. What is the capital of the United States?*

A:

95. Where is the Statue of Liberty?*

A:

B. Symbols

96. Why does the flag have 13 stripes?

A:

97. Why does the flag have 50 stars?*

A:

98. What is the name of the national anthem?

A:

C: Holidays

99. When do we celebrate Independence Day?*

A:

100. Name two national U.S. holidays.

A:

Categories: Uncategorized

Real Stuff

January 9, 2008 · 4 Comments

Wear ORANGE on Friday as a protest, on the SIX YEAR anniversary :

January 11, 2008 will mark 6 years since the first 20 prisoners arrived at Guantánamo Bay Cuba. Since then, 775 prisoners have passed through the gates and no trials have been completed.

As a symbol of freedom and democracy throughout the world, the United States must hold itself to our own high standards. When we resort to the use of torture, abuse, and indefinite detention we lower ourselves to the level of our enemies and defy the basic values that we hold dear. Guantánamo Bay has tarnished the reputation of the United States and makes a mockery of our core values. It is time to call once and for all for the United States to CLOSE GUANTÁNAMO!

Stand with us on January 11 and let’s prove that those who would advocate for a lower standard are on the wrong side of the law… the wrong side of core American values… and the wrong side of history. Take the pledge now and stand strong in support of justice.

Categories: Uncategorized

Jali Stuff

January 5, 2008 · 16 Comments

I’ve been sick and haven’t, until now, been inspired to write.

I cancelled my date on New Year’s Eve since my cough and sniffles would add nothing to the festivities.

I’m waiting until 10 or so this morning  to cancel my date for tonight, but it’s not my cold this time.

Cool guy I met a while back called me and we’ve been speaking quite a bit lately. (over the phone cold therapy) He stopped over yesterday and came back after work last night and he’s upstairs asleep as I write.

Coughs and sniffles aren’t conducive to hot sex, so no, I’m still waiting, but his company and sweetness made a big difference to me.

There’s a generational difference between us, but he’s the first man I’ve met since “A” that makes me giggle  (very important to me) and who I feel entirely comfortable with all the time. He gets my jokes – he gets me. He woke up, saw the “first thing in the morning” look, and didn’t scream and jump out the window. He actually smiled and rolled back over.

I really like his natural scent – clean and manly – good stuff!

My bathroom is right off the bedroom and I had to turn on the water to disguise the accompanying sounds my body insists on making as soon as I close the door. Yes! I fart, dudes. Regularly. Loud, loud first thing in the morning farts. Ride or die farts. What the hell did I eat farts.

The covers were shaking when I finally came out of the bathroom, so I guess I cracked him up.  He didn’t say a word, and neither did I.

I’m going to take mucho medicine right now since I need this cold to end. I got stuff to do!

Categories: Uncategorized
Tagged: , ,