I’m taking a break from my break today. I was surfing new blogs and I ran into an issue that I didn’t realize existed to the extent I read about today. Here’s a link so that you can check for yourself http://www.iserveidiots.com/2007/01/04/the-numbers-dont-lie-people/#comment-980.
I was reading a variety of “server” blogs and read articles and reader comments about AfricanAmericans and tipping. Almost all of the servers who took the time to write noted that Black people were generally rude to servers and usually didn’t tip. As I read, I got a bit heated since I’m a great tipper, but in thinking back on dinners with friends I recall a few who would either try to find a reason not to tip, or who would leave the table before the tip was due.
I had a good girlfriend in New York who is well educated and an excellent friend. I refuse to go out to eat with her since she NEVER tips the waitstaff, and I could no longer afford to make up her tips all the time. We would go to restaurants where the average entree ran about $18 to $30 bucks, so with appetizer and drinks, dinner usually ran over $100 for the two of us. The tip had to be at least $20 and depending on the level of service I’d want to go higher, but since I was paying the tip alone going out to eat with “J” was breaking my bank.
I also remember treating a guy who was like a brother to me to dinner and leaving a good tip on the table. I busted this guy actually going back to take the tip. He defended himself by saying the waiter didn’t earn the tip, and that he was going to return it to me. I was horrified and I made sure to put the cash into the waiters hand. I never went out to eat with him again.
I mention these two stories and wonder how many other good people out there are like this when it comes to tipping.
Isn’t 20% the standard tip with a higher percentage left for a greater degree of service? If I go to lunch alone (I love to do this) and the meal is $10 – 15, I never tip less than $5. I’ve had servers that actually seemed shocked to get a decent tip from me and I wonder if this is based on the single Black woman reputation as a poor tipper.
My daughter in Florida is a server and she hates to serve some Black people since generally she gets stiffed. I don’t understand this at all. Some of the servers commented that perhaps it’s a cultural thing – since I’m an AA chick, I don’t believe that since my parents both tipped well.
I’d like to hear true stories from you guys please as well as reasons for how you approach tipping. I can’t remember ever not tipping a server and I can’t imagine why someone would go out of there way to skip a tip.
I know that this isn’t a big deal in the general scheme of things, but I don’t like knowing that many of “my people” don’t treat servers well and I’d like this to change.